I understand your pain because I have known it myself.
For a long time, I lived from a setting where being good enough meant pushing at full speed. Helping everyone. Not complaining. Holding it together. Functioning. I was a people-pleaser myself, driven by the subconscious belief that my value depended on performance and on what I could do for others.
Chronic migraines came during a period when I had moved to a new country, was pregnant and worked from home. Daily pain brought me to a point where conventional medicine did not offer an answer.
The shift came when I began working with subconscious patterns and saw what I had long not heard in myself. Today I work with people who live from a similar setting. That is exactly why I know where to look.